I think you've put your finger on something here: "With my close people I expect to have my bullshit called out, and they should expect the same from me. Good relationships require that."
It seems to me that many people don't have those kinds of authentic relationships anymore where our bullshit gets called out. I've put my foot down abo…
I think you've put your finger on something here: "With my close people I expect to have my bullshit called out, and they should expect the same from me. Good relationships require that."
It seems to me that many people don't have those kinds of authentic relationships anymore where our bullshit gets called out. I've put my foot down about some stuff over the past several years (thanks, Trump) that I couldn't put up with anymore, and those relationships in which I did so are no longer. Or are completely surface-level if we even still speak to one another. Now you've got me wondering when and to whom I've done that to in return.
There are obviously many things propping up white supremacy, but the lack of willingness to stay in relationship with people who call you on your shit has to play a role.
Sara, that is definitely something I think about. The people who have drifted away that I have been close to: what does it say about my own toxicity? We can't be all things to all people but it's still not easy.
I think you've put your finger on something here: "With my close people I expect to have my bullshit called out, and they should expect the same from me. Good relationships require that."
It seems to me that many people don't have those kinds of authentic relationships anymore where our bullshit gets called out. I've put my foot down about some stuff over the past several years (thanks, Trump) that I couldn't put up with anymore, and those relationships in which I did so are no longer. Or are completely surface-level if we even still speak to one another. Now you've got me wondering when and to whom I've done that to in return.
There are obviously many things propping up white supremacy, but the lack of willingness to stay in relationship with people who call you on your shit has to play a role.
Sara, that is definitely something I think about. The people who have drifted away that I have been close to: what does it say about my own toxicity? We can't be all things to all people but it's still not easy.